She had three felony convictions. There's not much motivation to work hard.
Any pretence is unnecessary. It's possible to do much more screening of a potential date now than before this phenomenon came along. Don't flee the scene just because something reminds you of a past relationship gone bad.
Most of the time I get a lukewarm response. But usually, a red flag is just a personality quirk that might or might not prevent a good relationship from developing. Only then can you fully commit to it and do it properly. We didn't get together again.
But yes, there are bad ones, even horrible ones. The authors of the review are skeptical of these claims. Don't make more out of something than it should be.
The thought process behind this is fairly rational, up to a point. You felt like you had to make more of an effort.
But that may have a downside. Find out what's happening in the world as it unfolds. If you are later suspected of having done something of which you are truly innocent, your previous lie will work against your partner believing you. She criticized what I ordered for dinner.
The problem with artifice and pretence is that they require a lot of work in order to be convincing. So even if it is only because of how it may come back to haunt you, be honest and be yourself.
He screamed at the waiter. Communicating via email or instant message before meeting in person doesn't always cure this problem.
The guy showed me photos of his ex-wife. Sooner or later, you forget what lies you have told and you trip yourself up. But there are pitfalls, some are directly attributable to internet dating, some are collateral damage. He was so controlling, like my ex. The guy sent me nude photos of himself.